It is a well-known fact, guys, that once you creep her out, it’s game over.
Let me repeat, even if you’re the most handsome, intellectual, passionate, personable dude in the WORLD, once you get the ‘creepy’ label, you are NOT getting her phone number. There’s just no chance (zip, zero, zilch, my friend).
I know this from personal experience because I have unfortunately (and unintentionally) creeped out a few girls in my day. TRUST ME, I am not bragging, as these were not my finest moments.
I have approached a woman from behind when she wasn’t expecting it (Oops – rookie mistake).
I have gotten too close to her, invading her personal “space” (Yikes – drunken mistake).
I have told a “dirty” joke too early in the conversation (Awkward – socially obnoxious Adam mistake).
Though all my bone-head moves are ultimately great tips on what NOT to do, there’s something much more essential to be learned as you get out there and meet women (so you don’t run the risk of making them feel uncomfortable).
How do you meet women during the day without coming off like a creeper? I have approached thousands of women in my life, many of which have been during the day, and I understand that a lot of women may not be expecting it. Not a lot of guys have the guts to genuinely approach a girl during the daytime, and that works perfectly in our favor.
Girls are expecting to be approached at a bar, which in turn prepares you for the approach, so I want to make sure that you are feeling ready to go out with that same sense of comfortability, but in a new environment because these are the best places to create genuine connections with girls.
First off, let’s talk about your mental state. The game is won or lost before you even talk to the girl, and what I mean by that is you need to give off a positive energy at all times. While you’re walking around I want you to be able to generate interest all women that are around you, and the only way to do that and through your vibe and your social state.
Now I talk a lot about getting social warmed up and getting into that great mood where you can be super sociable. A lot of guys are able to get that social state at night, especially under the influence of alcohol, but during the day it can be a bit harder.
So start your day by getting warmed up, talk to a few people, maybe ask them for directions to Starbucks, maybe even get a high five, maybe just ask them what time it is.
One thing I do to make sure that I’m generating interest is while walking around I’ll put in my headphones (this is the only time I’ll say that you can walk around with your headphones on) and I’ll put on a Pandora station of one my favorite comedians. I’ll laughed the entire time and goof around, which will give off a great vibe. I’m smiling, I’m happy, and that’s alluring. You know that once a girl smiles at you, you’re in. You then know that you can go over there and start talking to her.
In order to stay in a comfortable environment while still remaining on the offensive socially, one must be direct. Don’t just say, “hi, I think you’re pretty and wait for a response. I want to teach you something that I learned throughout my in-field coaching technique and that is that if she’s walking past you or even if sitting there, make sure that she can sense your presence before you even start talking.
For instance, before you get into your conversations starter or your opener,
Say, “excuse me,” and make sure she’s actually stopped. At that time she has no idea what you’re doing, which is all part of your mysterious demeanor. Your smiling the entire time so you’re saying yes and giving off that positive vibe. In this moment, the most genuine thing you can do is to compliment her.
And this will even be a time when you can say, “I just saw you walking there and I needed to tell you that I think you absolutely stunning”. You want make sure you are going direct, which is really crucial.
Again, make sure she feels your presence before you even start talking to her. Before you get into it she’s fully stopped, she’s fully engaged, and she’s making eye contact with you.
That’s what this is all about. I don’t want you to try to be some like pickup artist who’s like reciting all these words. When I see a girl and I want to approach her, I’m thinking to myself, “God she is gorgeous,” so that’s what I’m going to say. And chances are that’s what’s going on in your mind anyways so why hide the fact?
Be a man, say what’s on your mind, and see how she responds.
These are the critical tips you need to make the right, positive first impression.
